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Don’t Take Things Personally

They tried to bury us. They didn’t know we were seeds. Dinos Christianopoulos Note: When we recognize that people have their own perceptions we don’t to take things personally, and thus avoid needless suffering. We accept that people see things through their own filters based on their experiences and we dispassionately consider their unsolicited opinions.

Don’t Assume; Ask for Clarification

Assumptions are made and most assumptions are wrong. –Albert Einstein Note: Often we make assumptions from a negative perspective when the better choice would be to be open-minded and ask questions to gain understanding. Questions: What can you do to stay curious, seek clarification, and avoid making assumptions? Resource: Chapter 5 Page 33 Don’t Assume.

Give Each Other the Safety to Identify and Express Emotions and Feelings

“Feelings are something you have; not something you are.” ― Shannon L. Alder Note: Creating a safe environment to explore feelings openly and honesty builds the foundation for a healthy relationship. This opens the safe space to understand and challenge the thoughts that generate distressing feelings. Question: What can you do to make it safe

Resist the Desire to React. WAIT. Why am I Talking/Texting/Tweeting

How people treat you is their karma. How you react is yours. Wayne Dyer. Note: A measure of self-control is being able to pause, breathe and choose an appropriate response when you are triggered by another’s behaviors. Question: What thoughts and actions help you to remain calm and collected amidst a perceived attack or insult?

Listen Attentively to Understand, Not to Respond

Wisdom is the reward you getfor a lifetime of listeningwhen you’d have preferred to talk. ––Doug Larson Note: Listening attentively can be a great time saver that enhances understanding, communication, and connection.Question: What can you do to become a compassionate, patient, engaged listener and then, at other times, to appreciate and validate the attention when

Can You See What Eye? Breathe, Smile, and Be at Ease

Breathe in Faith to transform fear. ––M. Chere Sampson Note: The breath is an empowering tool that precedes any action to be able to see things more clearly and proceed intentionally and effectively. Question:  When the mind feels overwhelmed with fear, anxiety, or distractions, how can you use the conscious breath to make the best